Hi everyone! Dorky proposition for you – an unusual kumbaya moment from me (don’t get used to it).
But recently, someone pointed out to me that the only 2 things I’m struggling to succeed at are for ME, while everything I DO succeed at is for my babies.
So… you know how Valentine’s Day is a day of expressing your love for someone? In addition to showering my 3 precious angels with love that day, I thought I would embark on a weekly challenge with whoever wants to join me – kind of symbolic starting and ending it on February 14th, because it’s SO important for us to show ourselves some love and I know I don’t.
What will the challenge be?
Well, I will check in once a week via text and video blog and go over some self fulfillment successes I had that week and you can add yours, too. I want to start and end each day focusing on something that fulfills me or helps me reach an ultimate goal (outside of my babies because they’re my world).
I also launched a FB group for this, too for daily inspiration and camaraderie? Facebook has become so sour politically lately, and this will be a closed group for us to add some positivity to, and maybe discuss what we’re working on for ourselves.
I spend all my moments focused on thinking about helping others – from my subscribers to my mom to my kids – everyone but myself. In fact, I’ve always abhorred hearing the words “me time” from anyone (and still do).
I don’t know why, except I think I take after my mom a bit in that department – always making sure everyone else is taken care of before myself. And I don’t plan to alter that much with my babies – they’re my life.
BUT…my oldest son is grown and self sufficient. My middle child will be an adult this summer and all of the stressful stuff is behind us now – college choice, tuition, etc. So it’s much less to do and I feel like now there’s “room” for a little me in there.
I’m 46. There are things I’d like to achieve and do in life that I’ve back burnered, and that’s fine – but now I feel like it’s time to focus on some stuff.
What should you work on? Whatever you feel needs attention in terms of you feeling fulfilled. I have a few things I’m working on, including home renovations, me renovations (ha ha), fiction, debt payoff and more. I want to focus also on giving myself down time. I try to do it but it rarely happens.
All of this is something one of my FB friends said about “starting new habits” rather than trying to eliminate the old – so I’ll be working on weaving in new habits for this challenge that helps me feel personally fulfilled, since I’m already overflowing with pride and happiness about my kids. I want to feel the same for what I achieve for me, too.
After all, I have taught them to be proud of their accomplishments and to pursue their dreams and take care of themselves, yet I’m not setting a good example doing that for myself.
Update: After posting this blog post, I scheduled something for the day this challenge begins on Valentine’s Day – a teeth cleaning, xrays and exam! I mention why I did this and the future plans regarding it in the FB group. I wanted something for THAT day. I might make it a routine – once a week have something very specific.