Hi everyone! I’m going to let you in on a little secret: I used to be the most UNmotivated, lazy person you’ve ever met. I don’t care what it was – school, job tasks – I didn’t care at ALL.
It wasn’t until I had my son that I even cared about success, but still, the drive eluded me and I just basically clocked in and clocked out like a robot. The only thing I did was wishful thinking – I wished I would win the lottery, basically.
Somewhere along the way, I realized nobody was going to promote me to a successful position. I didn’t have it in me to brown-nose my way to the top. And I hated working for other people – really, really hated it.
I had to work hard to change my thinking. And I didn’t even realize I was actively doing that until it changed and then I recognized the difference. Not everyone automatically is born with that drive to be a success. It just wasn’t in my personality. I was bored.
When I look at other success stories, I find that many of them are like me – people who didn’t get it or have it initially, and then learned how to adopt those successful characteristics along the way.
Here’s what happened as I morphed from slacker to success story:
#1 – I quit being negative.
I really used to focus on all the ways I was getting screwed over instead of what progress I could make. When I started focusing on that, it made me welcome the obstacles and challenges because it meant I’d overcome something – a win.
#2 – I quit quitting when I’d fail.
I used to hate failing. It would freak me out and really get me down. Then I started learning that that saying was true about every failure being a lesson. So I started looking at it like that – a badge of honor showing I was trying, and then weeding out what didn’t work until I found out what did.
#3 – I quit trying to be like my competitors.
Spying on them is great. Learning from them is fantastic. But nobody needs two of anyone. It’s scary to put yourself out there as something unique, but that’s what people WANT. They want your way of thinking – they already have everyone else’s. So do things the way you want to. Hell, that’s the fun of being an entrepreneur – no boss to tell you what to do, how to do it, or when it needs to be done!
#4 – I used to hate learning and now I crave it.
I was a B-C (and yeah sometimes D or F student). When I had Dylan, I became a straight A Dean’s list student. As an entrepreneur, I used to find learning absolutely exhausting. There was so much to learn, things kept changing and I’d end up almost in tears.
Until I changed my thinking. I developed an appetite for learning kind of how, if you’re not used to eating breakfast and you start doing it anyway – two weeks later, if you wake up, your mind and body are trained to be hungry. I started welcoming new ways to thinking, new skill sets I could learn, and new or different strategies that were available to me. I found it helped me grow my business tremendously.
#5 – I found the right way to set goals.
Before, during my slacker days, I either had no goals or I set ones that were totally unrealistic. You ought to see my goals now. They’re bite sized. They’re appropriate for my business. They’re ones I can follow through on without fail so that I’m not disappointed in myself – and they propel me forward in my pursuit of success.
#6 – I learned how to pace myself.
I used to (okay I still do sometimes) go hardcore at something and burn out FAST. I’ve been practicing the art of pacing myself BIG time – especially these past few months. And my year is going FANTASTIC!
If you pace yourself correctly, which means being patient and persevering through obstacles, you’ll find yourself far ahead of the game than if you pushed yourself too hard, too fast and burned out.
If you’re not taking the time to work on how you act and think as an entrepreneur, then you’ll have a harder time succeeding. It’s NOT all about technical tasks and networking. A lot of what makes you succeed is how you’re handling things overall.
Spend a little time each day working on this aspect of the business.